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Circling and Authentic Relating Practice Guide (2nd Edition)
Learn the group conversation practice that will transform all of your relationships and bring you the love, friendship and community that you want
The Circling and Authentic Relating Practice Guide (2nd Edition) is a short book that will teach you how to Circle effectively. It also contains a Recent history of the Authentic Relating movement, a comprehensive Resources section, and sections covering Precursors (Integral Theory, NVC etc) and Additional Circling Contexts. The latest edition also covers the powerful practice of Developmental Circling.
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Note: As of Dec/2020 I am committed to the gift economy, and relying on donations and program fees to support myself. Please consider a donation as small as $1 to support my work. Other good Circling and A/R print resources are Sara Ness manuals, Bryan Bayer’s book, and Jason Digges new book.
What is Circling?
Circling is a group conversation practice that usually lasts an hour to an hour and a half, and involves 3 to 9 people. It is possible, however, to have it go on for days and to engage as many as 50 people or more. Circling happens either in person in many places around the world, or via online web-conferencing technology (see the Resources section). Both are great. There are also weekend workshops and advanced training programs, which often run 6 to 9 months.
Marco’s 3- minute introduction to Circling
This is my very brief introduction to Circling. Presented at a live workshop of Authentic Singles Dating.
Watch the Circling Europe video
Courtesy of Circling Europe
PREFACE TO THE 1st EDITION: MY AGENDA
“No one cares how much you know, until they know how much you care” – Theodore Roosevelt
This book fulfills three deep desires of mine.
My first desire was to write a practice guide to Circling that could be read in one sitting and give the essence of the modality. A guide that might be especially useful to those of us with short attention spans.
My second desire was to share my excitement about the Authentic Relating movement, which has been so fun and so transformational for me in such a short time, in the hope of inspiring others to try it out for themselves.
And my third desire was to put Circling into the context where I think it squarely belongs: as a revolutionary practice aimed at extending the reach of loving kindness in the world. As such there is no sphere of life, public or private, that cannot benefit from the skills described here. You can practice Authentic Relating (A/R) with anyone, whether they are aware of your intentions or not, and if you do it correctly (which is not always easy) it is very likely that you will get phenomenal results with most people.
The Circling and Authentic Relating movement is currently the largest and fastest-growing global movement for teaching relational intelligence, other than NVC. Furthermore, it is an open-source (or non-proprietary) movement, which is quite rare in terms of human developmental modalities. I will expand on this topic (the place of Authentic Relating within the larger “we-space movement”) in Chapter 4.
However, the strength of Circling – that open-source makes it something of an anarchic, or “emergent” phenomenon – is also a weakness. I do not have any certifications from any of the schools of Circling, and despite this I have had considerable success in leadership, both in my personal life and community. As such I have a further agenda here: to encourage any and all “cowboy and cowgirl circlers” – meaning Circlers like me who are not formally trained or credentialed – to hit the streets and lead. Be aware that this is controversial and there is a risk in this, of causing damage. My advice: be humble, process your inevitable reactivity, and you will be fine. Authentic Relating is not “easy”, but it may be the most valuable thing that you can learn.
The focus of my writing and practice is to bring Authentic Relating to real-world problems across the board; but I am most interested in its applications in mental health (see www.seekhealing.org), place-based or land-based communities (see www.manifesting.net) and sexuality (see www.authentic.singles). If you are interested in these topics and want to support me or share resources, or else have any feedback to the book, please write to me at marc@CirclingGuide.com.