The desire to love and be loved, to “know and be known”, to be seen and acknowledged for our unique gifts and contributions, and to feel part of a group who sees us and cares for us, is a fundamental human need. In my frame it is THE fundamental human need outside of physical survival. It is a need that gets fulfilled (or not), every minute of the day through our interactions with people, be they friends, family, lovers, colleagues, or strangers at the check-out counter.
If you agree with this, then consider these questions:
First: Why does nobody talk about this, or even admit it (that their deepest desire is to love and be loved, and to be seen and acknowledged for their contributions)? Why do we (mostly) pursue these needs totally unconsciously, achieving success only by “accident” as it were? Why are our personal relationships, our communities and … Continue reading....