Jason:
When I go through the full curriculum over six weeks with people I send them this very detailed PDF that has like 30 slides and we we talk about .. so this is just an example we we do the noticing game as the way to study ownership of experience. We go through all of the basic teachings of authentic relating Weak by week and the last two classes we start to study conflict transformation which I call emotional emotional Alchemy. And it’s hard to this today where it’s a lot of experiential learning if teaching it’s usually for less than five minutes.
If we’re discussing you know we might be testing for 20 minutes but it really is a lot of exercises a little groups of twos and threes. we’re going to try a new structure in tbis particular course where we’re going to do home groups
This is a course that I’ve taught all over the world, I have taught it on Zoom many times.
what else do I want to share about this oh.. we’re gonna be all of the different tools you know in my book there’s 30 different tools, but we are also going to contextualize. Tthere’s something about learning with 15 or 20 people who you do the exercises, it can go so much deeper into you. And then the book can just be a refresher and either do the exercise in the book that you can bring to people
And why would you want to do this? Well I’ve had very experienced people who were doing Non-Violent Communication for 15 years take the course andI love it. so it’s not just beginners, its usually a mix of people.
So why would you want to do it? If you can get a mix of people with varying experiences, we can get better at creating shared reality. So we have people who are bringing this into their particular Community or housing situation or roommates, and co-creating projects. So the more people with different backgrounds, the better.
so that’s that’s my part around that’s why I’m doing this is to train people and create a world that works for everyone.
Marco:
Thank you Jason.
So I’m reflecting it’s difficult in a webinar this size to really give you an experience of AR, because AR normally happens in small groups and one-on-one, but I find myself quite pleased Jason that.. you know the noticing game is really one of the most powerful games that we play. It is also the basis of the Circling practice which I deeply love and has fundamentally changed my life…
So let me give just a quick plug for Jason and the ARC course and then talk about what Sophie and I are doing in the PRLC.
So we ran an ARC cohort last June, also GEN-sponsored we love GEN, we had like 15 or 16 people in the course and it was really very beautiful we dropped in very deep I was really kind of shocked frankly at how well that course went. And we enjoyed so much we actually formed a peer-led group out of that course, and as far as I know that group is still running. And for me this is a real test of a successful course, when people enjoy it so much that they want to continue and they self-organize around that.
Authentic Relating is what we call in integral psychology a “transcend and include” of NVC. So it includes NVC but its more. Unlike NVC it’s peer-created and peer-led which makes it unique among modern transformational modalities, which is really why it’s become so popular. Just so you understand that AR is a unique emergence in human history from my perspective.
And about the PRLC… I just want to say that Sophie and I got married three weeks ago, and today is a big day for me because we just learned two hours ago that my German residence visa was approved, so yay for that. I thought that this might negatively impact the quality of my attention…
The PRLC cam out of my 8 years of expeience in AR of running private groups. Now a private group is a group of people who commit to coming together and practicing, usually weekly but could be every few weeks too. And I have been doing this quite a while and most of the groups are really phenomenal, what we do is Circling which is the original Authentic Relating practice. So I was running this group of friends for 5 years, I have a men’s group now that has been meeting weekly for 5 years. And two years ago I started leading professionally, primarily to people who were interested in intentional community and I ran three different groups in Mexico on the ground. Circling can happen online and it can happen on the ground and the Mexico groups were great. So that was a big big win for me. And then I started leading online with Sophie and we ran two different cohors for GEN. The last one was so powerful that again we moved that into a peer-led group which continues to meet and has been very meaningful to us both.
That’s what happens, when a group goes well it’s kind of unbelievable. The PRLC is specifically a training program for running private groups, if that’s of interest. The ARC is a more wider scope program where you go through the basics more systematically. The ARC can potentially teach you how to lead AR games, you can just repeat the exercises that you will learn in the ARC with your community. My take on this is that to learn AR you have to lead it and you have to accept that sometimes you will make mistakes and you have to treat these mistakes wth humility and apologize, and if you do that you will grow as an AR leader.
I like to I like to say that unless you leading you’re not really learning. And to “lead” doesn’t necessarily mean starting groups. It could be, as someone on the call pointed out, as simple as reaching out to your neighbor and having a connected conversation. Authentic Relating is a way of being that is universally attractive. Of course you never know how other people are going to respond, but typically if you give them your best, you demonstrate listening and you demonstrate care and show up and you curiosity, 90% of people were respond very positively 90% of the time.
I will stop there and ask Sophie if she wants to say a few words.
