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Relational Power: Call for engagement

December 22, 2022 By marc Leave a Comment

Very exciting news! The draft of my new book, Relational Power Part 1, has now been published to all channels. including web, Kindle, Paperback and free download. 

Can you help me out?

I want to get A/R more into the mainstream (to give it, say, equal visibility to NVC). I have this bold idea (maybe narcissistic-deluded, but WTF) to crowd-source the new book. I am soliciting readers, reviewers, editors and volunteer marketing partners, and examples and case-studies of personal transformations through the A/R practice.

I can’t write this book from my knowledge and characterology alone (because it is an unusual one). It’s a book about a movement and a transformational practice — arguably the most powerful, open-source human developmental practice ever invented. If you agree with this statement, and you have a few spare cycles to give me in your (probably) busy life, then fill-out the partner form and I will be in touch.

If there are enough contributions, I may even profit-share. I am retired and don’t need the money. We are approximately 6 months out from official publication, but Part 1 is solid.

How to be authentic and loving in an emotionally illiterate culture

For more context, I have a supplemental article How to be authentic and loving in an emotionally illiterate culture, which describes the root-context of Relational Power.

I wrote the Circling Guide 6 years ago (a lifetime) and it became the most popular book on the practice of Circling within the Authentic Relating tradition. Relational Power is the sequel to the Circling Guide, in which I have come to understand “Circling” as Authentic Relating with shared context, as opposed to what I call “Authentic Relating on  the street” (or just “Authentic Relating”) which is done without shared context.

As far as I can tell, by the way, Guy Sengstock (the founder of Circling™) in his brilliant article What is the Circling Method, agrees with this idea when he says this: the primary purpose of Circling™, is the transformation of your way of being through authentic relating.

Thus, the new book focuses on this (larger and more challenging practice) of “Authentic Relating on the street”. 

A few months ago, something “clicked” for me, and I started doing Authentic Relating 24/7 with the people in my environment. This in addition to many formal circles that I either lead or participate in, which have been pretty much home-runs every one (I know this sounds inflated, but it’s true).

I am especially enjoying my very-very beginner local (on the ground) circle, which continues to delight and humble me. “Humble me” because every group has been completely different than anything that I had planned or imagined (this, by the way, tends to be a pretty good marker of good Circling, I have discovered). 

For me, “Authentic Relating on the street” means to bring it wherever I show up: at the gym, at the tennis court, with my friends, in bars, at the checkout counter: meaning that I make jokes, give compliments, ask questions and elicit deeper sharing and connection wherever I show-up. It’s really quite simple and I get a tremendous amount of joy from doing this.

It’s also, for me, a form of political activism. read more about this in the linked article. 

I desperately want your help with this. I really can’t write this book alone. 

Help me out by reading the book and/or signing up to my partner list. I will be in touch. You can also just reply to this mail and we can book a session. That would give me great joy. 

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